Wednesday, August 19, 2009
interesting article (from naddie as usual!! :D)
http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1914321,00.html
There are two key predictors of a resilient relationship, experts say: mutual support and a willingness to sacrifice.
Gottman says he could predict which couples would blossom under stress: those in whom, years before, he had observed better communication and more mutual support. "Even at the time of the wedding, the men were more respectful of their wives, prouder of them," he says.will i become someone my husband can be proud of? i tink i need to work on that (: i shall start now cuz i tink i've got a longlonglong way to go! x)
Beyond respect and pride — and even love — it may be the willingness to sacrifice that leads to a lasting marriage, according to researchers.proves the first point! apparently researches have been done and scientific studies are usually erm most reliable? iz it? x) i tink so!
Studies at the University of Denver, and colleagues found that the willingness to forgo personal interests and put a partner's needs ahead of one's own was directly linked to a long-lasting, happy marriage — provided that such sacrifices weren't damaging or one-directional.terms and conditions! (: mental note.
"You've got to know that you actually do better if you hang in there."what doesnt kill you makes you stronger (: roughing it together i tink iz the fun part of a marriage, knowing that you're going through storms not on your own because you have your spouse with you. and solely because you know that with him/her, it's better than doing it yourself (: and because you know that going through it together breeds itself a stronger bond on its own (:
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*throbs @11:58 <3
the article looks familiar...
oh oops. haha, i wonder where it came from... x)
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